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The Happiest Baby on the Block
by Harvey Karp
The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer
Published: June 29, 2016
4.1 (137 ratings)
Table of Contents
1
what’s in it for me? become an expert baby-calmer.2
babies cry because they’re brought into the world before they’re ready.3
babies have a special calming reflex, and there’s an art to triggering it.4
swaddle your baby and keep it lying on its side to trigger the calming reflex.5
use shushing and swinging to break the crying cycle.6
use pacifiers to sustain the calming reflex, and take your sleeping routine into account.7
final summaryBook Summary
This is a comprehensive summary of “The Happiest Baby on the Block” by Harvey Karp. The book explores the new way to calm crying and help your newborn baby sleep longer.
what’s in it for me? become an expert baby-calmer.#
Introduction
harvey karp, the happiest baby on the block.
the new way to calm crying and help your newborn baby sleep longer.
do you know how the navy seals get trained to endure torture?
they're deprived of sleep for days on end.
do you know how they're kept awake?
by the shrill sounds of a baby crying for hours and hours and hours.
if this situation sounds familiar to you, and you don't happen to be a navy seal, then you're probably a new mom or dad.
and luckily for you, there's something you can do about it.
these chapters won't only help you understand why babies cry so much, they'll also teach you what to do about it.
baby calming is a skill, something that can be practiced and mastered.
all you need to do is learn five simple and time-proven techniques, the five s's, and how they apply to your baby.
babies cry because they’re brought into the world before they’re ready.#
chapter number one.
babies cry because they're brought into the world before they're ready.
when a foal is born, it's able to run.
but what about human babies?
well, there's really no animal born more helpless.
newborn babies can't sit up on their own, they can't turn on their own, and they can't even burp without assistance.
frail, fragile, and constantly overwhelmed, babies need a soothing, stable place with constant nourishment, the womb.
unfortunately, babies are born about three months before they're physically ready to enter the world.
why do we enter the world so early?
we have our big brains, to thank for that one.
human survival depends on having a sophisticated brain, and babies are born with rather large heads to allow for this.
if the baby stayed in the womb longer than nine months, its head would grow too big for it to be born, and it would get stuck in the birth canal.
because of this early arrival, babies cry for help, and they rely on you to respond.
crying is a baby's instinctual reaction, its way of ensuring it gets constant care.
when a baby is hungry, cold, in need of a fresh diaper, or feeling afraid, its first reflex is to cry.
crying is natural, and parents shouldn't worry about spoiling their baby by responding to every cry.
think about it, how can you spoil something in its very first months in the world?
letting your baby cry is dangerous, too.
it's been linked to increased breastfeeding problems, and even crib death.
most colicky babies cry excessively, because they were born too early.
only 10% of colicky babies suffer from a physical ailment, such as a food intolerance, while the rest exhibit colicky symptoms because they missed the fourth trimester in the womb.
so as your child follows its instincts and starts crying, let your own instincts guide you, and show your child love as soon as it needs it.
soon enough, your baby will learn to feel safe when you're around.
nonetheless, you'll sometimes need a few tricks up your sleeve to soothe your baby.
we'll explore these next.
babies have a special calming reflex, and there’s an art to triggering it.#
chapter number two.
babies have a special calming reflex, and there's an art to triggering it.
you know the knee-jerk reflex?
firmly tap your knee right below the kneecap, and you'll inadvertently kick your leg.
one reflex obviously isn't going to help you calm your baby, but another, equally reliable reflex will.
even the crankiest babies have a special calming reflex that protects them during pregnancy and continues to soothe them after they enter the world.
a baby's calming reflex kicks into action during their last month in the womb, soothing the baby to prevent it from moving around too much.
this is vital, since at this stage in the pregnancy, the womb gets rather tight.
if the baby keeps tossing and turning, it might get stuck in a position that threatens its life and the life of its mother during birth.
the good news is that this calming reflex persists after birth, but triggering it is a little more complicated than the knee-jerk reflex.
there are five strategies you can use, which we'll explore in the chapters to come.
these can be tricky to master, and each baby responds to them slightly differently.
but they're worth practicing, and your baby will respond to them more and more as you both become more familiar with them.
so let's get started with the first two of the five s's, swaddling and the side position.
swaddle your baby and keep it lying on its side to trigger the calming reflex.#
chapter number three.
swaddle your baby and keep it lying on its side to trigger the calming reflex.
swaddling your baby, the first s, is a simple way to trigger its calming reflex, and it's surprisingly effective.
but why?
well, by wrapping your baby tightly, you're simulating the gentle, continuous pressure of the womb.
soothed and relaxed by this pressure, your baby will be more inclined to respond to further triggers.
but hold on.
isn't swaddling bad for your baby?
many parents, after seeing their crying baby writhing and flailing its arms, worry that swaddling is too constricting.
swaddling has also been rumored to increase the risk of sudden infant death syndrome, sids.
but on the contrary, research shows that sids risk is reduced if you swaddle your baby correctly.
all this squirming and flailing isn't something that babies enjoy.
they just can't help it, and in fact, it upsets them further.
swaddling your baby, and thus preventing movement, helps your baby feel safe again.
however, you should limit swaddling to sleep and crying episodes and reduce it gradually as your baby matures.
this will ensure that your baby can stretch and move as much as it likes.
okay, but maybe you've had trouble swaddling your baby.
it won't stay still or it starts crying.
to avert this problem, use the second s, the side position.
when you lay a baby on its back, its nervous system may interpret this position as falling.
the baby, reacting with the falling reflex, will startle and flail its arms.
so simply roll your baby on its side, triggering the calming reflex, and swaddle away.
the side position is not the position in which a baby should sleep, however.
once your baby is calm and ready for sleep, roll it onto its back.
ensuring that your baby doesn't sleep on its side significantly reduces the risk of sids, too.
now that you've got some baby calming skills, it's time to break the crying cycle.
use shushing and swinging to break the crying cycle.#
chapter number four.
use shushing and swinging to break the crying cycle.
did you know that the sound of blood rushing around the womb is louder than a vacuum cleaner?
for babies, silence is a big contrast to what they're used to, and it drives them crazy.
noise can actually calm babies down, especially sounds that mimic the whooshing of the womb.
shushing, the third s, is a great way to do this.
a sort of white noise you can make with your mouth, shushing is an essential part of calming a wailing baby.
start with a soft shhh sound and slowly raise your volume to meet the level of crying, and then lower your volume as your baby quiets down.
the fourth s, swinging, is another way to break the crying cycle, but be sure to approach it cautiously.
babies hate stillness almost as much as they hate silence.
back in the womb, they were always moving around as the mother went about her life.
to recreate this constant movement and soothe crying, rock your baby in your arms rapidly, but only within a range of a few inches.
then progress to gentle rocking to sustain the calming effect.
use motions that you can do sitting so you don't tire yourself out either.
remember, swinging and rocking are not shaking.
swinging entails small movements while supporting your child's head and neck.
shaking can lead to brain damage and even death.
so never shake your baby, not even when you're angry.
now that you've broken the crying cycle, how can you sustain the calming reflex?
use pacifiers to sustain the calming reflex, and take your sleeping routine into account.#
chapter number five.
use pacifiers to sustain the calming reflex and take your sleeping routine into account.
you're close to mastering the art of triggering the calming reflex.
there's just one more s to cover.
to ensure the calming reflex lasts and your baby doesn't just start sobbing again, use sucking.
after all, for babies, to suck is to survive.
take care of nutritive sucking first.
a baby needs to drink three ounces per pound of body weight.
for an adult, this would amount to gulping down gallons of milk every day.
breastfeeding is vital, and once your baby has got that down pat, start making use of pacifiers to calm your child between meals.
pacifiers are best unsweetened and without chemicals, and you should only use them during the first six months.
around the ninth month, the child will form an emotional attachment to it and struggle to go without.
with a calm baby, sleeping is finally possible.
with the five s's covered, there's still one more thing to consider, though.
how and where will your baby sleep?
during the first nine months, keep your baby in your bedroom for easy nighttime care, but don't try bed sharing since it can increase the risk of sids.
you aren't likely to roll on them if they're in the same bed as you, but sheets may restrict their breathing, or they could roll into the riskier side position.
your own exhaustion creates risk of sids, too.
you may fall asleep while nursing on the couch or in bed, for instance, and you will be exhausted.
after two weeks of sleep deprivation, your attention level is equivalent to that of a drunk person's.
take care to stay awake with the assistance of constant sound from good speakers, not your iphones.
now that you've got the information you need, it's time to put it into practice.
get that calming reflex going, and you'll soon have many more calm moments yourself, too.
final summary#
Conclusion
you've just heard the chapters to harvey karp's the happiest baby on the block.
the key message in this book is that babies cry to survive their vulnerable first few months in a world they weren't ready to be born into.
trigger your baby's calming reflex by simulating the safe environment of the womb with the five s's— swaddling, side position, shushing, swinging, and sucking.
keep practicing, and you'll soon be a pro at soothing your baby, and your own tired ears, too.
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